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Nov 27, 2020Liked by Ope

Realising that I have been actively trying to make a home for myself. I do not feel a special attachment to anywhere...yet. Hopefully, that changes too.

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I just spent a few days with my mum's friend who lives in Jos.

She told me that the first time she visited the city, to get the form for a part-time degree at the University of Jos, she knew she had found home.

She knew no one and nothing in the city. She even had to live in an hotel for the first 6 months, but she knew she had found home.

Despite the cold and her somewhat reduced financial capacity, she was the most serene I had ever seen her.

I can only hope to one day find such a place of peace, like she has. Home is where the heart is, and her heart has found room for itself in Jos.

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On Nigeria and being the mouth of a shark I can only concur. It certainly feels like that at the moment. Sorry to see you have also been forced to begin your self-induced exile as I alluded to at: https://link.medium.com/Aqfq4dhhccb

Whatever you are feeling on those days when you miss home I guess it is worth knowing that you CAN have multiple homes or places where you feel at home. The hardest thing atimes is the feeling of betrayal you feel for leaving in the first place. But this too shall pass. Make peace with it knowing that, if or when you choose to return, home will always welcome you with open arms like you never left.

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